One of the lies we were sold as kids was that having premarital sex with women brings bad luck and reduces the grace of God in your life.
The one that terrified me most was that premarital sex brings poverty as well as bad luck that will make you a poor man for the rest of your life.
Women were painted as carriers of bad luck, and once you have sex with them, they transmit the bad luck to you, which will make you struggle all your life.
The church went ahead to paint premarital sex as a curse and something spiritual, emphasising that the more spiritual the angle, the more reason you need to stay away from it.
Obinna, who was indoctrinated with this message as a child, then became an adult and then saw random friends who didn’t believe in that bullshit having sex with multiple women and still flourished.
The sex those friends had was not enough to diminish the grace of God in their lives or unleash poverty in their lives.
It then dawns on Obinna that he has been scammed by his Sunday school teacher.
In his quiet times, Obinna regrets and rues the years he wasted, missing the best sex of his life because of childhood indoctrination.
I’m a big believer in God’s grace.
It is real, and my life is an example.
At the same time, life has taught me that sex does not diminish the grace of God in your life.
The grace of God is free and does not come with any conditions attached to it.
Edward, my billionaire friend, is a serial womaniser.
He is 36, a billionaire, and can’t go a day without having sex.
Sex is his daily blood tonic, but he is rich—a billionaire who lives on Banana Island at 36.
The fact that he changes women like wrappers has not made him poor.
If you want to stay celibate, please, by all means, do so. It is actually a good thing to do, as you can make life-altering decisions with clear clarity of mind, knowing that sex was not the reason or the biggest influence.
I have a friend who married his wife because sex with her during the dating era was too sweet for him.
She gets wet and creams easily during the act, and the guy loves it.
That pushed him to commit to her only to see a different thing during the marriage proper, and it dawned on him that good sex is not enough to commit to another person for the rest of your life because marriage is a serious business and good sex is not enough.
Many women are in toxic relationships, and they have refused to run because of how good the penis is.
If staying celibate helps and strengthens your walk with God, by all means continue.
However, if you are staying celibate because you are expecting some kind of mythical reward from heaven,
No reward is coming to you because you are celibate and have stayed away from sex.
Real life does not work like that.
Some young people had their biggest breakthrough after having sex with their destiny helper.
So, I will say
Stay celibate because you want to and you are running away from contacting STD.
That is right and a valid reason.
Stay celibate because you want to stay holy and make heaven, because that is what the scripture demands of believers.
But if you choose to explore the world of sex, have enough of it before you marry so you won’t be chasing small girls on Facebook after marriage, exposing yourself and your wife to ridicule and Facebook dragging.
Sex is not spiritual.
Morality that includes chastity has nothing to do with the final outcome of your life.
If you work hard,
Go to bed late and wake up early.
Have something to sell, whether it is a skill set or a product.
And then you are good at forging life-changing relationships, which is called networking.
With the element of luck by your side, you will succeed, and you will be richer than some of your peers.
Having sex, or even a lack of it, won’t stop your shine.
Women are not carriers and custodians of bad luck, which is automatically transmitted after having sex with them.
Sex is sex.
It was a beautiful thing created by God for procreation and pleasure, and there is no reward for staying away from it.
Anything more than this…..